Why women date other marrieds?
Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on from the beginning of the world. Affairs can be burdened with evils, cause misery, and other harms. In addition you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, funds, age difference, faith background, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman date.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are people seeking affairs. I suppose typically though it is only the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a small period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody are able to turn the longing on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many people the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but the public too. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your relatives or anybody else? You will need to minimize the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major cluster, colossal in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are comfortable in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your assets are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair occasionally solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the man is sexually neglecting his woman for a large humber of reasons. As a male I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe caring is gone, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply developed separately, our common interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is contradictory of what you want. Maybe I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
Tags: affairs, Dating, dating married people, extramarital affairs, Marriage, married dating, seeking an affair